Families in Toronto understand that life changes are around every corner – some that we have control over and others that are outside of our control. With so much uncertainty recently, it’s possible you may be feeling a bit worn down and unsure of what will happen next week, next month, or next year.
Uncertainty can’t be escaped or avoided, so it does us well to learn how to manage in the midst of it. Here are a few ways the team at Affordable Burials and Cremations suggests accepting uncertainty and moving forward:
Realize you’ve been uncertain in life before
Recognizing that you’ve been unsure in the past can help you gain the confidence you need to persevere. Remember that life will always be unpredictable, and you’ve made it through trying times before. The unknown can be a powerful motivating tool, and there are always healthy life changes that can be made.
Focus on what you can control
Some may thrive in a state of chaos while others stall out at the thought of it. If you’re the latter, being mindful of the things you do have control over will help you realize there are stable and dependable aspects of life. While this looks different for everyone, creating a daily routine will put you on the right track – even when things get hectic. Often, what you can’t control finds a way of working itself out.
Uncertainty doesn’t have to be negative
Are there any opportunities coming your way that you’re excited about? Taking time to think of these positives is a mood booster. This can be difficult because of the current pandemic but learning to shift your mindset can often result in positive or even exciting outcomes.
If you’re unsure of where to start, try this exercise. Allot a certain amount of time each day to turn off all digital devices and spend time with family, friends, pets, or by yourself. Being present and aware of your surroundings could bring you the mood boost you need to embrace and navigate the unknown.
Here are a few other activities to try:
- Go for a walk
- Jot your thoughts down in a journal
- Cook, clean, or find an activity you like that allows you to use your hands
- Call a friend or relative
Be kind to yourself
Our thoughts are often our worst enemy! Too often, we dwell on the negative and are hard on ourselves. Instead, pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Acknowledge your negative feelings, but don’t let them spiral and get out of hand. Feeding on these thoughts will only crush your self-esteem and make it difficult to see all the opportunities you have in life.
One practical way to introduce an element of certainty is by putting your own end-of-life arrangements in writing. Not only are you able to think through and express your preferences, but this also takes the pressure off your loved ones. We meet with many people to preplan, and not one ever expresses regret over taking this step. The peace of mind that comes as a result speaks for itself. Reach out to the team at Affordable Burials and Cremations to begin putting your own arrangements in place, or check out our online planning form to get started now.
Know that the caring team at Affordable Burials and Cremations is always here for you. You can read our other blogs on how to create a meaningful tribute on a budget, understanding the cremation and burial process, and how curating a memorial garden can help after a loss. We also have aftercare resources on our website that many people find helpful. We are always here to answer questions, so contact us anytime.